Will I feel better right away? how long does it take?
Often, just telling someone else about what is concerning you can reduce the distress. Sometimes facing what you have been ignoring hurts at the beginning. It can be a “good pain,” similar to sore muscles after a good day of gardening.I will not let it get out of hand.
Why can’t I figure this out on my own?
It’s a matter of perspective. You are in the middle of the storm, unable to appreciate the forces involved. I am outside the storm, and can see what is happening. I can help you shift your frame of reference, acquire new information, and develop the skills to use this knowledge to your best advantage.